So you think you can date? | Teen Life Christian Youth Articles, Daily Devotions
Talk I gave at Impact (youth ministry of Banstead Community Church) on the topic of dating. And that's totally okay by us because we're glad you're looking for biblical answers to these questions rather than trying to figure out the whole dating thing on. There's all kinds of advice out there about teenage dating. Here are the Biblical principles that should guide your Christian dating decisions.
Real love will wait for the right time and right circumstances. It is not unusual for two committed Christians to agree to refrain from all physical contact beyond holding hands until marriage.
Some of the happiest married couples can testify to the fact that their first kiss was at the marriage altar! Respect for parents on both sides. In a God-ordained courtship, there should be the approval of the parents on both sides.
If one or both sets of parents disapprove of the relationship, that is a danger signal which should not be ignored. A successful marriage involves serious preparation on the part of both the guy and girl. Financial freedom is a necessity in a happy marriage. The couple should seriously consider a budget. You may be madly in love with each other, but if you do not have a good education and financial freedom, you may not be ready for courtship.
Ideally, both husband and wife should be committed Christians who love the Lord Jesus with all their hearts. There will be serious problems if one partner is a fully-committed Christian and the other is complacent about the things of God. Under no circumstances should a born-again Christian marry an unbeliever.
Lesson 7: Dating—the Benefits and Dangers
The Rewards of Courtship Courtship brings a new freedom in relationships with the opposite sex. You are focused on one person and not wondering about every guy or girl you meet. It avoids envy and jealousy. Courtship promotes self-control and moral purity. It promotes responsibility—you are seriously planning and preparing for life. What does God say? God delights in the happiness of His children.
Every command of God is an expression of His love and His desire that we enjoy the best He has in mind for us. Let us see what God says about sexual matters. Fornication Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman who are not married is called fornication. God hates this sin because it destroys the beautiful plan that God has in mind for you. For you are bought with a price: In business, defrauding is cheating—leading someone to expect certain benefits which you know are false.
When a guy professes to love a girl and talks about their getting married some day in order to entice her to have sex with him, that is defrauding. This means God will punish those who commit this sin. A good rule for guys and girls is this: Do not give or take that which may some day rightfully belong to another person.
Homosexual sins God forbids all sexual intercourse between two members of the same sex. God does not hate homosexuals; He loves them! He loves them so much that He gave His only Son to die for them. But God hates their sin. The Bible tells us that God destroyed the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah because of this sin.
Marrying an unbeliever For a Christian to marry an unbeliever is a violation of the will of God. In no uncertain terms God warns us against this sin. Let this fact impress itself on your mind: Wait for the right person and the right time A researcher has discovered a way to forecast the future of four-year olds by watching how they interact with a marshmallow.
He invites the children one by one into a plain room with nothing but a small table and a marshmallow. Through a one-way window he is able to watch what happens. Some children grab the marshmallow the minute he is gone.
Some last a few minutes while others are determined to wait. They cover their eyes, sing to themselves, try to play a game, or even fall asleep. When the scientist returns, he gives these children their hard-earned two marshmallows. But that is not the end of the story. By the time these children reached high school, the researcher found that those, who as four-year olds held out for the second marshmallow, grew up to be better adjusted, more popular, more confident and dependable teenagers than those who gave in to temptation early on.
We are composed of three parts—body, soul, and spirit. Our soul is our self—composed of mind, emotions, and will. Our spirit is our innermost being by which we can know God and receive His life.
They develop a deep friendship based on their common love for the Lord Jesus. As they grow closer to God, they draw closer to each other.
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In the courtship period, as they grow closer to God, they again grow closer to each other. Finally, in marriage, they enjoy oneness of spirit, oneness of soul, and oneness of body. They become one in Christ.
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The result is the deepest, happiest, most fulfilling relationship that can be known by two people in this life. A common question people ask about sexual purity is 'how far can I go? In the same way, you should try to stay as far away from doing something wrong sexually when you are dating.
What does the Bible say about dating? Are Christian teens allowed to date?
However, I think that a ban on Christians dating is taking 1 Corinthians 6: You said that Christian dating is about when and who? Okay, when should someone date?
Christians should only date if they can see themselves getting married in the near future, and should only date to see if this person is the right person to spend the rest of their lives with.
The Bible sets a few rules for who Christians can marry, and therefore who Christians should date. Prospective partners should not be already married, and should be of the opposite gender. There are certain activities in which our society generally expects teenagers to participate. One of these is dating. First, let's review the purpose of dating. Against the scale of the centuries, dating is a new phenomenon.
Traditionally, children worked until their parents decided that it was time for them to marry, the parents then selected the mate, and the new home was begun. Our society feels it better for those whose lives are most directly involved to make the important decision as to who they will marry. Accordingly, dating allows young people to be exposed to different personalities and to judge to some extent the effects that the various personality traits might have upon a lifelong relationship.
Dating lets boys and girls see these traits at work in a variety of situations.
This is important experience and education. Also, dating lets the young person observe himself, or herself, under diverse situations, and it's important that each person get to know himself very well.
There are also other reasons for dating, such as having a good time, being socially accepted, and just being with friends. It is a time to get to know another person more completely, a time to share ideas, plans and hopes, a time to do interesting things with someone special. When a teenager begins to date, he is uncertain about many things. That very first date causes both excitement and anxious moments. One of the most important decisions a teenager will make is choosing the people he will date.
The Bible tells us in I Corinthians