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Being a good polyamorous partner to a monogamous spouse

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"Polyamory: Married & Dating" Poly Anniversary (TV Episode ) cast and crew credits, including actors, actresses, directors, writers and more. Preview and download your favorite episodes of Polyamory, Season Poly Life, POLYAMORY: MARRIED AND DATING features Lindsey and wedding anniversary by allowing him to go on a date with her lover, Roxanne. What makes polyamorous relationships so difficult is that the rules aren't That's just on the side, then in terms of my romantic relationships, right now I am just dating one . We found it was easier to open up our relationship after we got married. We started [being poly] at our one-year anniversary.

I'm making the best of a worse scenario. That being said, there are some things you can do if your monogamous spouse agrees to open your marriage: Don't constantly sing the praises of your lover We know we're no longer the only one in your heart, no longer your only, best, and beloved.

Rubbing our noses in it doesn't help us accept what feels like a demotion. Don't treat us as an obligation I can't tell you how many poly books and blogs stress "your existing obligations," and how you need to give equal time and care to existing relationships.

We're already dealing with the revelation of your new love interest, being made to feel like an obligation makes it worse. Don't "date" us because you feel you have to Don't throw us leftover passion from your dates.

I know you need sex too, so I'll let my passion for X spillover on you.

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And the whole "I'm not responsible for your feelings" poly mindset sucks. Also don't tell us to go find someone of our own. Don't treat us as Old Faithful, fallback, Plan B Don't come seeking us out to entertain you when plans fall through with your sweetie.

I joyfully jumped on this a couple of times, and spent a miserable evening with someone who really didn't want to be with me as much as they wanted a diversion. Also, don't use us as a diversion when your sweetie is out with someone else. Watching you check your phone every 10 minutes isn't great fun.

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Don't try to make us over into your new sweetie Don't buy us things your new lover likes, make us food they like, or take us places they like. We are a family and like all families we have our struggles and our heartache, we strive and toil and trudge the road of life together, doing our best to take care of each other, sometimes failing, sometimes succeeding.

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I learned that love is not limited: I can love Alex completely, with everything I have, and still have more than enough to love Jon just as completely, just as fully. The decision to introduce Jon to our friends and family at our wedding seemed like a pragmatic choice. Everyone would be in one place at the same time.

East Coast and West Coast merging. Get married and introduce the world to our boyfriend.

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My family are all left wing, about as liberal as you can get. They try to understand. Being with one partner is hard enough. Just do your best to take care of each other. Our wedding was held at our small Craftsman house in Hollywood. My best friend Amy flew with her family from New York City to officiate. Over a people showed up. Jon stood in the back of the room during the ceremony.

We had all underestimated the timing. The emotions that would come up through out the day. We seem to do that a lot. Underestimate what is happening until it is over, and we are left thinking: But we wanted everyone to see Jon. We were proud of him. We wanted to show him off. In time this thing that seemed so far outside the norm, so far outside what was acceptable, began to feel normal.

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Life began to fill back in. Jobs and goals and the gym, paying the bills: No longer was there just two of us. I think that was the hardest part: Eventually I began to see this not just as one relationship but as four completely whole and separate relationships: Then there are our relationships to our selves.

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Carving out time to be alone. Finding a way to remain autonomous inside this thing that can easily consume you.

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He was just supposed to be a hook up, some random hot dude, just another adventure. And then we met the following week in the parking lot of my gym. We messed around in the bathroom at the bar. We had sex in a parking structure after getting bagels. It was sordid and sexy and fun. Then Conor spent the night. I would get us hotel rooms.

When we first said I love you it felt like something transgressive, something momentous and real. I flew to Spokane Washington where Alex was living for six months while working on a TV show to tell him that I had met somebody.

What did it mean? How did we make this work?

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It was especially hard on Alex. He was a thousand miles away. He already felt alienated from Jon and me.

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He was working long and treacherous hours. I introduced Jon to Conor. The three of us would sit in our living room and watch Broad City and Difficult People and eat In and Out burgers and Thai food and the two of them would cuddle.

Alex met him for the first time at Precinct, a gay club in downtown LA. None of us knew how it would go.